To someone like you.
“In my quest to find Mr Right (or rather hoping he would find me) I have found that dating seems to be a mission... I want someone who has a relationship with Jesus. But I'm finding more and more that so many single guys have this whole act going on in church. You would be so convinced that they are saved and have a relationship with God only to date them and realize that they are playing church just for their family. How do you even know when someone is genuine and someone is not?”
I loved what you have said. In fact, you are not the only one seeking that Mr Right. You are not alone, and I hope to find that special person, and reading that “you also hope to be found” made me smile, since I once posted the same on blogger.com, some time ago... Ja! Ja!
Twenty years ago, I thought my Mss Right would be in a church. I used to say to God: “Allow me to find her, in a way she looked like my grandmother...” (She was a Baptist woman, and I had wrong ideas on how my grandma was) But I loved the way she was!
Those days I met one woman I liked (and her name was close to my grandmother's, also) Ja! Ja! (I think God showed me how foolish my ideas were, those days).
I liked that relationship we both developed. I wasn't sure she was my Mss Right, but I married her anyhow, because I believed she was “my” Mss Right (She wasn't mine, telling the truth! Same way I wasn't her Mr Right).
The church, as a mean to find friends or spouses, is the same like outside: There's no guaranty on WHO you would find...
I enjoyed the two first years (We spent 13) and I cannot say how long she enjoyed me, but she endured me! (Same way I stood by her side, since both tried to make it function).
Problems came when we realized we were too different, and things became worst when:
1. Baby Joshua came... (Money was an issue at that moment) as this is today!
2. She invited some of her family to live with us (that spoiled sexual intimacy, personal space and privacy, and those things you will know when facing it yourselves).
3. Doctrinal and personal beliefs came along to separate ME from hers (She was a Pentecostal and I still being a non-religious Christian believer).
4. She used to think she was a leader! (a church leader and HOME leader) and her commitment to her Pentecostal denomination made me feel I was isolated, since I was doing my part at the Christian Churches (not thinking I was a leader) Jesus is my leader! (I came to Christ, as my Lord and Savior, through the work of people from the Team Expansion missionaries).
5. I married her for physical relief. It wasn't the love I know now. So I failed from the beginning, and I knew something about her I should have divorced before passively thinking: “Probably God wants me to be married and love her the way she is...”
Genuine love is an unidirectional COMMITMENT, not a fixed feeling I condition for convenience.
You don't know a person unless you live with that one you planned to love or marry.
Doctrinal beliefs should be explored first than touching hands, lips, or any part of the body or those changing feelings.
Church is supposed to be the “ideal” place to find out that idealized person, but look at the stories of Rebecca, who was found IN THE STREET, directed by God through prayers (Abraham's, his servant's and Isaac's human longings).
Look at Ruth story... Look at Booz account and his justice... Those people came from afar and outside the religious synagogue or denominational church. Some churches are a sort of kindergarten, home schools or military hospitals for healing wounded hearts...
What I'm saying is the Church is not exclusive for finding your Mr or Mss Right!
You cannot find your best choice in a disco, in a bar, in a party where they consume drugs or enjoy cheating.
You cannot get your Mr Right if you see his date several girls in a week or if he/she keeps on wooing a couple of girls/women/men at the same time.
You shouldn't marry a woman who thinks (of herself) she is a leader or tries to lead you, as a man. (Remember the saying: “Behind any big man, there is a big woman...”).
I love to be the one I am!
God is not religion, but A WAY TO LIVE, more than this materialistic culture.
Of course, I see how materialistic Rebecca was when RECEIVING all that stuff she received on behalf of IsaacŽs name. I saw how materialistic Isaac and I are when staring at outer beauty, since OUR MINDS are set on things that are conditioned or programmed to be understood by OUR EYES, instead of our hearts (or by the spirit of our minds).
Did Moses marry an ugly woman?
Did he marry a Cushitic woman while Sephora was alive? (Does any of us know more than God?)
Abraham married a nice looking woman. He met her PERSONALLY, not by a hidden picture nor in a Blind date... Why DO many people hide? I know many like to play their games, but I don't like playing hide & seek.
Jacob wanted a nice looking woman, but Laban tricked him to work 7 more years to get Rachel... How long will you be WORKING TO GET HER?
I leave these things on God's...
I barely get enough to my daily living.
I loved what you have said. In fact, you are not the only one seeking that Mr Right. You are not alone, and I hope to find that special person, and reading that “you also hope to be found” made me smile, since I once posted the same on blogger.com, some time ago... Ja! Ja!
Twenty years ago, I thought my Mss Right would be in a church. I used to say to God: “Allow me to find her, in a way she looked like my grandmother...” (She was a Baptist woman, and I had wrong ideas on how my grandma was) But I loved the way she was!
Those days I met one woman I liked (and her name was close to my grandmother's, also) Ja! Ja! (I think God showed me how foolish my ideas were, those days).
I liked that relationship we both developed. I wasn't sure she was my Mss Right, but I married her anyhow, because I believed she was “my” Mss Right (She wasn't mine, telling the truth! Same way I wasn't her Mr Right).
The church, as a mean to find friends or spouses, is the same like outside: There's no guaranty on WHO you would find...
I enjoyed the two first years (We spent 13) and I cannot say how long she enjoyed me, but she endured me! (Same way I stood by her side, since both tried to make it function).
Problems came when we realized we were too different, and things became worst when:
1. Baby Joshua came... (Money was an issue at that moment) as this is today!
2. She invited some of her family to live with us (that spoiled sexual intimacy, personal space and privacy, and those things you will know when facing it yourselves).
3. Doctrinal and personal beliefs came along to separate ME from hers (She was a Pentecostal and I still being a non-religious Christian believer).
4. She used to think she was a leader! (a church leader and HOME leader) and her commitment to her Pentecostal denomination made me feel I was isolated, since I was doing my part at the Christian Churches (not thinking I was a leader) Jesus is my leader! (I came to Christ, as my Lord and Savior, through the work of people from the Team Expansion missionaries).
5. I married her for physical relief. It wasn't the love I know now. So I failed from the beginning, and I knew something about her I should have divorced before passively thinking: “Probably God wants me to be married and love her the way she is...”
Genuine love is an unidirectional COMMITMENT, not a fixed feeling I condition for convenience.
You don't know a person unless you live with that one you planned to love or marry.
Doctrinal beliefs should be explored first than touching hands, lips, or any part of the body or those changing feelings.
Church is supposed to be the “ideal” place to find out that idealized person, but look at the stories of Rebecca, who was found IN THE STREET, directed by God through prayers (Abraham's, his servant's and Isaac's human longings).
Look at Ruth story... Look at Booz account and his justice... Those people came from afar and outside the religious synagogue or denominational church. Some churches are a sort of kindergarten, home schools or military hospitals for healing wounded hearts...
What I'm saying is the Church is not exclusive for finding your Mr or Mss Right!
You cannot find your best choice in a disco, in a bar, in a party where they consume drugs or enjoy cheating.
You cannot get your Mr Right if you see his date several girls in a week or if he/she keeps on wooing a couple of girls/women/men at the same time.
You shouldn't marry a woman who thinks (of herself) she is a leader or tries to lead you, as a man. (Remember the saying: “Behind any big man, there is a big woman...”).
I love to be the one I am!
God is not religion, but A WAY TO LIVE, more than this materialistic culture.
Of course, I see how materialistic Rebecca was when RECEIVING all that stuff she received on behalf of IsaacŽs name. I saw how materialistic Isaac and I are when staring at outer beauty, since OUR MINDS are set on things that are conditioned or programmed to be understood by OUR EYES, instead of our hearts (or by the spirit of our minds).
Did Moses marry an ugly woman?
Did he marry a Cushitic woman while Sephora was alive? (Does any of us know more than God?)
Abraham married a nice looking woman. He met her PERSONALLY, not by a hidden picture nor in a Blind date... Why DO many people hide? I know many like to play their games, but I don't like playing hide & seek.
Jacob wanted a nice looking woman, but Laban tricked him to work 7 more years to get Rachel... How long will you be WORKING TO GET HER?
I leave these things on God's...
I barely get enough to my daily living.
Nov 20, 2013
A.T.
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